The correct etiquette for writing a wedding invitation has been handed down through the generations. If you are having a truly traditional wedding, you may want to stick with a formal invitation format. On the other hand, there is the option of taking exception to current formalities whilst still confirming to sociality accepted standards. This can be done by composing your very own invitation that will set you apart from the norm yet still be in good taste. However, it is the wording of the invitation that remains central to setting the tone to your weding.
Whether your selected wedding style is to follow tribal customs or whether it inclines toward Western culture, maintaining protocol in wording, phrasing and format is a must to any successful invitation.
A typical invitation will include customary data: the host line, request line, bride and groom line, date and time lines location line for the ceremony and the reception venue. All these details should be regarded as standard and are necessary details. The RSVP line with the cut-off date is essential, so that you are assured of the advanced notification as to the number of guests attending the reception. This aspect is especially important if you are adhering to a strict budget where catering quotes are given on a ‘per head’ basis, making prior confirmation imperative.
For second-time around marriages, the bride and groom’s names can be placed first. However, if they want to share the occasion with their parent’s names on the invitation card, it could be worded as this: Desiree Anant, daughter of Mr and Mrs. Ebrahim Reddy and Abdul Sadaat son of Mrs. Fatima Sadaat invite you to their wedding on the [date] at [venue] etc.
If you don’t take the trouble to note the essential aspects, you could send out an inferior invitation with the time, date or the venue of the wedding missing!
The line that will be most difficult is the host line: i.e Mr and Mrs O Mfulu request the pleasure of the company of [guests names] to the wedding of their daughter Khanyi to Solomon, younger son of Mr and Mrs P Nlovo. This wording is considered the norm if the bride’s parents are hosting the wedding and they are not separated or divorced.
If the bride’s parents are divorced, the bride would have to liaise with whichever parent is hosting the wedding as to whose name would feature as the host. Otherwise, both sets of parents names could appear, indicating them as being joint hosts.
If the bride and groom are hosting the wedding themselves or the groom’s parents and groom are hosting the wedding, then the invitation could be less formal. The invitation could come from the bride and groom directly. The wording would then be: John Mfulu and Nomsa Mtwetwi request the company of Yvonne Metusa and Patrick Tshabalala at the celebration of their wedding on [date, venue, etc.]
Courtesy of Femme Brides of Africa Magazine